Not Fair December 16, 2007
I have an aquaintance that I used to work with who I still talk to from time to time. She is also a good friend of another friend of mine, so I get updates on her every so often.
This aquaintance has a little boy who is almost three. She and her husband tried for years to get pregnant with him, and finally they succeeded through invitro. About a year ago, she and her husband wanted to try the whole grueling process again to ave a brother or sister for their son. Her doctor was on the east coast, as that is where they used to live, so she started going back for appointments. It was finally decided that her eggs that had been saved would be shipped to Las Vegas so she could undergo the process here.
Well, sadly, all of the eggs died by the time they got here. She was devistated. Soon after though, a miracle happened and they found out they were pregnant! On their own!!! I was SO happy to hear this news. The pregnancy was going along beautifully, and she was due this spring. I ran into my friend of this friend this weekend, and she told me that she was almost 20 weeks pregnant, went in for a routine ultrasound, and they found out that the baby had died.
My heart breaks for this woman. After suffering an earlier miscarriage myself, I can not imagine what it must be like to have one at 20 weeks. I have been thinking about her all weekend. I really try to be one of those “everything happens for a reason” type of people, but life is just seems so darned unfair sometimes…
Dude… December 13, 2007
I got my first blogging award, and I didn’t even know it! I have got to keep up with this blogging stuff!
That’s from mollydoll. She really rocks!
Now, I want to pass it on to LV Gurl and Building a Bakery!
Props to JJ too… December 4, 2007
Because I know I’m gonna hear about it!
So, here she is too, for anyone wondering what the infamous “JJ”looks like!
This was taken at Flute Girl’s bridal shower! JJ is the dark haired beauty with the big boobies that I have always been jealous of.
And here we are from last weekend, with her little Bubba boy! Ain’t he the cutest???
Love to JJ too… she already knows how much I love her though…
Props to T December 4, 2007
JJ and I got an email from one of our dearest friends, Flute Girl the other day. She heard about the blog from Banana and was joking that we needed to get together soon so she could be on the blog! She is going to be laughing at the name “Flute Girl”, because we first met in Junior High when we were taking private flute classes. We were even in a recital together, and I have a God awful picture of her and I in it somewhere. She actually looks very sweet and cute… I on the other hand look God awful with my 80’s “up to the sky” bangs! What was I thinking???
My dear Flute Girl, you don’t need to see me (although I do want you to!) to be on the blog! I love you enough to type away about you regardless!!!
Flute Girl got married to an amazing guy this past April. Here is a pic of the beautimus bride and the preggo bride’s maid. Isn’t she just glowing??? It was such a happy day, and I will forever be honored that I was a part of it!
Love you Flute Girl…
Frienemy November 3, 2007
Urban Dictionary Definition: A “toxic” person who poses as a friend but subconsciously or consciously wishes you harm.
There was a segment about “frienemies” on the Today Show this morning, and I had never heard of the word. It really got me thinking though…
I have had frienemies… in high school in particular, but then again, didn’t we all in high school?
I also had a frienemy about 5 years ago. We were very good friends. We had a great time hanging out together, and were with each-other quite often. We were very close, that was until someone else would try to get in the way. It seemed okay if she had other close friends, but for me to, well, that was not very okay. At the time, I was also dating a guy who had a bunch of guy friends we would always hang out with. This was a lot of fun. That is, until I didn’t want to date the guy anymore and I wanted to date Dandall. This is when it became REALLY not okay, as she saw Dandall as a huge threat to our “perfect” friendship, which was really her perfect friendship, because it benefited her greatly. After Dandall and I got married, the friendship quickly fizzled and ended.
This frienemy and I still kind of run in the same circles… enough to occasionally run into each-other. We always promise to get together and we never do. She is married as well now and has a child. I sometimes think about getting back in touch with her and having an honest conversation about what happened, and trying to work through it. But, the problem is that I also witnessed her being a frienemy to other people behind their backs, and I don’t think I could ever move past that. Plus, I wouldn’t trust her, and what’s the point of that.
Today, I am also friends with someone who Dandall and JJ think could turn into a frienemy if I let her get too close. JJ has joked for years that for some reason, I tend to bring out the “psycho stalkerness” in women. Some of them tend to get all weird on me when they are perfectly normal otherwise. I often wonder why.
Anyway, on the show, they were discussing how women have many more frienemies than men. And also that men will drop a frienemy like a bad habit and women tend to hang on to them. I wonder why that is. I often think that life is too short to spend it with “toxic people” if you can help it. But then I look at my own life and wonder why I let the frienemies linger, and don’t spend more time cultivating the friendships that are really worth growing. Hmmm…
So… what is your take on frienemies?
Leaving on a Jet Plane… October 25, 2007
Don’t know when she’ll be back again…
It’s official… JJ is moving to Phoenix. Actually, it has been official for almost a week now, but I have been in denial, and I still am to an extent. Yes… she is only moving one state, a 5 hour car ride and a 45 minute plane trip away, but STILL.
JJ and I have been best friends since the 7th grade. The 7th grade… people! Do you know what an amazing feat that is for two women? No boy, man, argument, or other friend has ever gotten in our way. Hopefully, distance won’t either. JJ and I are about as opposite as two people can be… she loves sports… I hate them. She is a Republican… I am a Democrat. I love girly things… she is a tomboy. She loves to excercise and could not get by without it… I look in the direction of a treadmill and I am already exhausted. I am overly dramatic when it comes to just about everything… she laughs at all of my craziness and somehow “gets” it. I could go on and on here, but somehow, it works. WE work… beautifully, in fact.
I know if JJ reads this, she will probably say “you are being overly dramatic…it won’t be that bad… we will still see each-other a lot… I’ll be back all of the time.” But, don’t people always say that when they move?
There are two people I totally and completely trust in this entire world… one is Dandall, and the other is JJ. Period. I really feel like someone is tearing my right arm off when I think about her moving. I know it is a great opportunity for her husband, and that Phoenix is a great place to live, but what about me? After all, this is my blog, therefore, it is all about ME on here!
I just pray that JJ knows how much I love her and how much I need her and how heartbroken I will be for the rest of my life if our friendship ever fades. Actually, I don’t think I will let that happen, as being a stay at home mom, I have all of the time in the world now to hunt her ass down in Phoenix!
